So what exactly happens when you and your partner decide that it just isn’t working out, or what happens when you and a friend decide to take it too far? Many times in this life we find ourselves in compromising situations that we know we have no business being in. And having a friend with benefits is definitely classified as one of those situations. A good example of this is when you’ve been in a relationship with someone and both of you mutually decide or one of you may decide that it isn’t working out and decide to go your seperate ways. Yet, you still find your paths crossing and doing the same things that you used to do when you were together. Another scenario may be, that the both of you were friends and now you find yourself crossing the line of what friends would normally do. How do you handle a situation like that or is this situation even a healthy one. Well let me say from my personal experiences that a frienship with benefits can cause you to lose a whole lot more than you bargained for. Once you have crossed that line with someone that was once your friend, you do risk losing that frienship and so much more. Now I am not saying that this can’t be a positive thing because maybe it can lead to a long lasting relationship but I really wouldn’t bet on it ending this way the majority of the time. A lot of times we find ourselves caught up in the moment and we really don’t take the time to think about what we’re doing until it is in fact too late. I think keeping our friendships separated from relationships is very important because in the end it can save you from a lot of heartache. If you want the frienship to be something more than what is then then address that to your friend and go from there but don’t put your heart or self out there and find yourself too deep that you forget that the initial intentions were never there for a long lasting relationship.
Woww….. GO AWAY? How??? If it was that easy it should not happen! Okay, I think I’m kind of lost here but I just want to say that I don’t think that two people who from the beginning chose to be friends with benefits “love” each other. It can happen that they start to have feelings for each other but I doubt it will work out. There won’t really be respect or anything like that, because especially the man will always see you as a “sex” partner. If it happens along the way, it is kind of different but still bad. I think it is really disgusting that two people claim to be “friends” are just using each other ( in a sexual way). It is a matter of self-esteem and self-worth!
If we cross the line, I think we should work it out because we love each other. Sometimes, it is better to have a better partner in this case. But if I am already in a relationship, I think that friend will have to go away. I am not saying you cannot be my friend, but not the way we were before.
I have to agree with you r.COP, friends with benefits really does make a things too complicated. It can even lead to the break up of what could have potentially been a genuine friendship. Sometimes I think people do things hastily and worry about the consequences a little later. So many things could be avoided if people think less with their body parts and more with the mind that God gave them.
Friends with benefits in my opinion makes things WAY too complicated. More often than not feelings and emotions get involved and friendship is turned around from something that is relationship that involves trust and someone who could be there for you to sexual satisfaction which is only temporary. Heart ache, pain, low self-esteem, self-worth is not worth those couple of minutes of pleasure. That’s just my opinion.
If I have a friend we end up doing thinks that we souldn’t be doing. It’s because we have feelings for each other, so we shoul work it out if it’s possible. If it’s not possible we should stop that friendship. I don’t call that friends with benefits; they are using each other in a bad way and take the word “friend” to cover the mess. For those who don’t know FRIEND is a big word.
I think once there are boundries set on the type of benefits it should all be good.