Developing a good internet dating profile requires time and effort and when done accordingly can bring a continuous stream of potential quality first dates or even the possibility of getting back together beyond the first dates. It is advisable to pay attention to the details when building your profile and pay attention to the following drawbacks at all costs, as these can always make the difference to your dating experience and to the quality of feedbacks you get.
1. The Copycat Pitfall.
You will probably agree when I say that this is one of the most common mistakes that hundreds have fallen into. You must have noticed that hundreds of the profiles sound the same. Several are almost similar. Why? Is it because people have no idea what to say? Or could it be that some dating sites who offer profile developing advice tell their members to look at other profiles prior to writing their own? It can be any one of these reasons
No matter the reason, it is important for you to be as unique as you can. There is only one you. No two people are the same, which means your personal ads shouldn’t be the same either. You need to avoid being stereotyped at all costs. And for this reason, you make a unique claim on your profile. And you become more visible by separating yourself.
2. The Personal Adjective Drawback..
Many people in order to describe themselves use the same outdated personal adjectives that don’t really say anything; you know the same old general stuff that could apply to most of the population: “I am an honest, creative, funny person”? you get the picture!
When describing yourself, where possible show your unique qualities by emphasizing them in the way you write your ad. For instance, instead of writing: “I am a funny witty person.” Write your ad using your own humorous manner.
People are funny in different ways; you need to decide the way to show your sense of funniness in a style that is your own. You must separate yourself from the others.
If you are someone that is able to make witty comments about themselves, go for it – it always acts as a turn on. You know the best part about making fun. If you are a inspiring individual then write inspiringly and the reader will see your creativity. Don’t write “I am intelligent” Just write your profile correctly, make sure it reads well. Remember, I”m not telling you never to use personal adjectives in your profile, I”m just saying use them wisely. Use action words where applicable.
Another point I want to make is using ?I? excessively in your profile: writing too many “I like”, ” I am”, “I want” and “I don’t” may paint you as a self-seeking person, someone who only focuses on themselves; this is not appealing and definitely not good selling point.
Remember the reader is not just interested in you. They are looking for reasons why they should get in touch with you. Give them a reason. Don’t just talk about yourself, include them. Remember to be yourself; it will help when you eventually meet face to face on a real first date. It will also increase your chances of getting back together for more dates beyond the first. Most people miss their chance to get back together after the first face to face date because they were not sincere on their online profiles.
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