How do I know if I am in an abusive relationship?

Domestic Violence is something that we hear about quite often in the society in which we live. At any given point in our lives all of us will have an opinion on this matter, especially these days since the media’s focus is turned to Chris Brown and Rihanna and their ordeal. It’s important for people to understand the severity of being in an abusive relationship, whether it is phyiscal or emotional.

Abusive Relationships aren’t easy to deal with and sometimes those that are in it tend to be in denial of what is actually happening. Sometimes people let love blind them into believing many things about their partners. They don’t see what can potentially come of their relationship  or of their if they don’t get out  of the abusive relationship. It is imperative that people stand up for themselves and take control of their lives and never allow their partner to abuse them emotionally or physically. With this said, let’s look at certain signs that can allow a person to know if they are in an abusive relationship.

– Does your partner have a temper and always tends to take his anger out on you by yelling or screaming?

-Does your partner always question the things that you do, or where your going, who your going with?

-Does your partner control your finances?

-Does your partner prevent you from doing certain things you love, or prevent you from seeing your friends, or getting a job, going to school?

-Does your partner criticize the way you look, the way you dress, or criticize your weight?

-Does your partner get close to your face or ball up his fist, or hit things around you when you and him are in a heated argument?

-Does your partner hit you, throw things directly at you, calls you names, curses at you?

-When you are done having an argument, does your partner come bearing gifts, make expensive purchases, begs and pleads for your forgiveness?

-Does your partner promise that they won’t let it happen again?

-Does your partner initiate intimacy so that  all can be forgotten?

-Does your partner deny that they are abusive?

If you have answered YES to most of these questions, then there is a great likelihood that you are in an abusive relationship or a relationship that can potentially be abusive.

Now believe me I know that this isn’t the easiest thing to deal with or talk about but here on the things we talk about, we try to be as real as possible and deal with the real issues in life. Life can take some ugly turns with you but it’s better if you can already see what may come of them and try to prevent certain things from happening.

Take a good look and see if this is a relationship worth pursuing, better to be safe than sorry!

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