Happy Monday everyone, I hope you all had an amazing weekend. Today’s topic is about whether or not a person should marry their partner after dating them for just a few weeks. As you all may know Khloe Kardashian, Kim Kardashian’s little sister got married this weekend to Lamar Odom that plays on the Lakers. Now mind you these two started dating just about a month ago and they have already jumped the broom. Now I can’t judge on whether it was for love or for television ratings but how many people really think that after just a short period of dating someone that your ready to really commit the rest of your life, as it very well should be to them. Personally, I believe in having a great deal of time in getting to know a person before I can commit my life to them, but this is just me of course. I think that a few weeks just isn’t enough to know that you truly love someone. Love takes times and it takes you through various rollercoaster rides and I think before you jump the broom you have to be 100% sure that no matter what direction this roller coaster ride may take you that your in it for the long run. I’m not sure if you can feel like this just after a short while. Well, I would really love to hear your thoughts about this topic! Feel free to leave comments below!
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I agree Martine, God should be at the forefront of our relationships, because all things are possible through him. I do still think ift's importatn though that we do take the time to know the people that we will be spending the rest of our lives with, because they can shape us or they can break us.
Ur right Ellipso... In order to experience the love in 1 cor. 13, one needs to have a good understanding of it, and let God lead his/her love. DrG1, you did not understand my comment in the way I was thinking of it. I did not say that you have to put up with whatever the other person is doing. I did not mean "my love, but our love". What I said was that if love is strong enough, the couple should be able to overcome any difficulties with God's help. One thing ( nt really in the subject, but...) If we stop thinking about what the other person would do, but instead of what we would do, our relationships would be stronger I think.
I agree with you. Love does take time. Somepeople always say they are in love at the beginning, but after a while, they realize that person was not the one. Always be patient. I know getting married is wonderful, but you have to think about your life also.
Martine, I'm glad you brought up that definition of love and your absolutely right, that's the agape love that we all should have for each other. Now I'm not saying that after a month you can't have that Jesus love because you should have it automatically but and I do hate this but, but marrying someone and saying that your love can endure all things and believe in all things when you really don't even understand this agape love you speak of is asking for a whole lot.
Well, Martine, I guess then with love we can just put up with whatever someone else is doing. But keep in mind, this may be a cliche, but there is a thin line between love and hate.
I agree with both of you. However, Here is something intriguing... while I was reading your replies, I thought about the definition of love in 1 cor.13. Then, I realized that what you, guys described was not love but just a feeling..."For love believes all things...and endures all".
I agree love is not enough to get married. I think it also depends on what you fell in love with or love about the person. Because I may love the way he laughs one minute but hate it the next. You should be able to tolerate the person and everything about them. I don't think a month will be sufficient.
But is love enough to even be in a relationship, needless to say a marriage? We can love as much as we want but love can only carry it so far. Let's say I meet someone and I love her and she loves me and after 1 year or so we get married and one day she happens to be going through my wallet or my phone. Now what she doesn't know is that I don't like people invading my privacy, not that I care, but at no time should I feel that my privacy is being invaded. I can let it go with a warning if it keeps happening after two or three times, that's ground for dismissal. But see, after a year, I don't think we can get to know each other enough, thus, love is not really everything when it comes to marriage. It's a Big factor but not all.
I would say that in general, it is not recommended to marry someone just after a few weeks dating. However if the couple had a frienship before then realized that they loved each other, I don't see any problem in it. The thing is that love is so imprevisible! One may meet someone today and already know that he/she is the chosen one. And if the feeling is both ways..., well, I don't see why they can't get married in a month. What matters is not to fall in love with the wrong person.
I agree with you on the fact that marriage isn't what it used to be. I mean I know how hard it is to just find someone but I don't having been with someone for just a month can really help you determine if you should spend the rest of your life with them. I don't know maybe I am cynic but I have to really get to know you before I can definitely take it that next step.
Well, love have no set time, one can fall in love with another at any given time. However, love is not enough to be married with someone. You can love someone with all of your heart and can't stand them.. funny huh, I know, I know.
On the real, marriage is not what it once was simply because marriage is just an accessory to many, so I am not really that surprised. And the saying the rest of life with someone is not really the case any more. The rest of the month would be enough in most cases.