How do you know if you have found the person that your supposed to spend the rest of your life with? I think that this is absolutely one of the hardest things to know. Many times when we find ourselves in a relationship, especially in the beginning we say that “oh yeah he/she is definitely the one” and then a few months down the line when things don’t seem as peachy or wonderful as they once were, we begin to seek for that “other one.”
Well, the reality is that we won’t ever find the one were supposed to be unless we try to make things work. Now I am not saying if your with someone and after a few months you really don’t feel like it’s going anywhere then to stay in the relationship but you should always attempt to find ways to make it work (definitely feel another post coming for this one). So I know what your thinking, what makes me such an expert? Well the reality is I’m not but over the years I have seen and have experienced a lot and have been in my relationship for quite sometime so I think it’s safe to share some things that have made ours work and have allowed me to feel like he’s the one for me.
First and foremost, I truly believe that if someone wants to have a relationship that will bring you more joy than sorrow, you have to place God at it’s center. In any relationship, I think it’s so important to have someone that’s going to respect you, both of you should have a mutual respect for each because that is where the trust and faithfulness stems from. You also need to know that the person understands and cares for your well being. They have to love you for who you are and encourage you to be what you can be. They have to be strong for you when you are weak and you have to be able to return these things unto them.
You have to know that you can trust them with your well being and if you plan on having children, with their well being too. You have to be able to talk things out and communicate when someone just isn’t going right. Don’t let problems build because they will eventually cause the demise of your relationship. It’s so important to talk things out and work things out, even when you may not want to. The longer a problem lasts, the more reasons you start to find why this person isn’t the one for you, so fix it before it gets to that point. There are so many more things I would like to share but my time is up….so this is a definite to be continued…..Please share your thoughts and comments below, they are all greatly appreciated!