There’s a saying that says girls and guys are like matches and gasoline, meaning when they get together things are bound to happen. Can a guy and a girl just be friends and have no other feeling surface from this friendship? Like the saying says, it’s very difficult for a guy and girl to be close friends and at some point not develop feelings that surpass friendship for each other. Some things in life are bound to happen. Sometimes when two people spend so much time together and they start getting to know each other, they begin viewing the person in a different kind of light. They start noticing and thinking about certain things that they’ve never thought about of before.

A perfect example, when a girl is in a relationship and she has a guy friend that she confides in or considers to be a best friend, she will likely be telling her guy friend about all the things that are happening in her relationship, what her boyfriend is doing right or wrong, etc. This friend is going to be the one that provides her with comfort when she’s going through difficult times with her man. This friend will know all of her soft spots, all of weaknesses, and obviously more than her boyfriend probably knows, so technically her friend is more in tune with her than her actual man is. By the way, the same is true for a guy that has a girl as a good friend or best friend that he tells everything to.

A man thinks that he can be friends with a girl and not have this friendship go any further, but let me the one to say, at some given point in time, either something can happen or he has thought about something happening. Feelings are sometimes things that we can’t help feel or control. They come upon you at any given moment in time. You may not at first think anything of it, but the way you may feel about a person in your friendship may not be the way the person feels about you. In your mind, you may honestly believe that your just friends, but that doesn’t mean the person feels the same way.

But wait, does this mean that girls and guys in relationships shouldn’t be hanging out or talking to anyone outside of their partner? No, that would be insane, but it’s important to limit the kinds of conversations that your having, you shouldn’t be sharing with anyone what’s happening in your relationship, or you shouldn’t be comparing your girl or guy to anyone. If at any point your friends starts to change tongue on the way they feel about you then it’s important that you snip the talking time. Don’t be oblivious to what’s going on, if you want to keep your relationship and your friendships, it’s important to open your eyes to what’s happening around you. Make sure that no one has any alterior motives and that the friendship is true and genuine.

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In this day and age, so many people feel that having a long lasting relationship is far from impossible. Well, le t me be the one to tell you that it really isn’t. I won’t lie to you and say that it doesn’t take a whole lot of work, patience, and understanding but if you truly love someone than any and everything is possible. A lot of times when people are in relationships, they tend to give up easily, if you truly love someone than you have to exhaust all of your resources before you decide that you no longer want to be with them. But this is only and only if you want to really be with them and they too want to be with you. There are certain things though that will help you in your relationship if you do want it to work. Trust me, I wouldn’t be telling you these things, if I had no clue of what I’m talking about.

It’s important that when your in a relationship, that you respect the person that your with and that they give you the same respect right back. When I say respect, I mean it’s important that you choose your words carefully, there is no need to tell your partner, curse words, or words that will make them feel disrespected in any shape or form. A lot of times even the word “shut up” can do more harm than good. It’s important that you understand that adults go about handling matters in a more adult way, and that involves talking to each other like human beings and not like animals. Respecting each other is key.

Another important thing to remember if you want to keep your relationship going is to be open and honest to your partner. If you are keeping things, this will do more harm than good, because they are bound to come out at some point. It’s always better to clear the air than to keep things hidden because it does make a situation that could have been easily resolved much worse if the truth is uncovered at a later time.

Another thing that a person needs in a relationship, is understanding. If for example you are with someone and they tell you that they don’t want to do something or they aren’t feeling up to it, it’s important that you try to understand what they are trying to tell you even if you don’t like it. It’s never healthy in a relationship when a person has to give up all of themselves just to please you because what happens then is that they stop loving themselves which can prevent them from loving you.

There are so many other factors that go into having a long lasting relationship, but trust me when I say these three are crucial, respect, honesty, understanding, oh and one that I didn’t mention above which is trust. If you love someone than trust and believe that they wouldn’t do anything to hurt you just like you wouldn’t do anything to hurt them.

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Sex as a weapon, definitely one of the things we need to talk about. Sex is a a very common aspect of most relationships. It is the aspect of the relationship that most find to be the most enjoyable and one that can really bring a couple closer together. Yet, it is also the aspect of a relationship that can equally tear a couple apart. You see, in a relationship this specific activity has to be agreed upon by both parties, both people willingly agree to engage themselves in having sex. Yet, what we find sometimes is that one party may not necessarily be up to having sex for one reason or another.

Well today, the focus is on the ladies. Women tend to use sex as a way to coerce their men into getting their way. If they want something to happen then they know that this would be the perfect opportunity to get their man to do it. They figure that if the guy wants it bad enough then he will do exactly what it is she wants, so she uses sex as a tool to get her way. Is it right for a woman to use her body or sexuality rather as a means to get her way?

Another example on the way women tend to use their sexuality as a weapon is when they are upset. When a woman is angry, her sexual drive tends to find it’s way out the door, which bascially means that the guy isn’t getting any. This is as real as it gets. Is it right for a married woman that is supposed to be one with her husband, keep herself away from him in that sense?

It’s amazing the way that guys can go all googoo gaga over women and not even realize the traps that they are being led into. So both ladies and gents what do you think, should sex be used a weapon in any shape or form in a relationship. If no, then why? And if yes, then why and when should it be used?

Don’t be afraid to speak your mind, this is what it’s about!

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Eddy and Maria were about to celebrate their 4 year anniversary in a few months. Maria was ecstatic because she was certain that this would be her last year as an unmarried woman and that finally her boyfriend of four years would finally decide to pop the question. One night a few months before their anniversary, Eddy went out with his friends, got drunk and made some mistakes that could have altered the rest of his life. He found himself waking up, naked next to a girl that he had only met the night before at some bar. It took him a few minutes to collect his thoughts and realize that he cheated on the love of his life and had reached a point of no return. Eddy went home ashamed of course and immediately faced the music by telling his girlfriend, Maria that he had cheated on her. Maria was outraged of course, at that very moment she felt like her entire universe had fallen apart.

Cheating, a very common disease that we find infiltrating relationships all around the world. This is something that can cause relationships to crumble and never be rebuilt. When a person cheats on their partner, you not only cause this person pain, agony, heartache, and grief but you also run them at a risk to lose their life, if you are involved with them sexually. If a woman or a man finds out that they’ve been cheated on, should they or shouldn’t they take their partner back. Is telling the person that you won’t allow this happen enough? What can you do to prove that this isn’t going to be a common trend in your relationship? Cheating isn’t something that you can take back, it’s a scar that will stay forever. Forgiveness though is something that should be a part of every relationship, but don’t be mistaken, just because we can forgive doesn’t mean that we will forget. It’s important that if a person decides to stick it out with their partner through these difficult times, that you take the time to find trust in the  person again but you also learn to let go of the past and not hold these things against them forever. What would you do if you ever found yourself in a situation like this?

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So we heard why do relationships fail from a man’s point of view and now of course it’s from a woman’s. Relationships can fail for a numerous amount of reasons. One of the most common reasons is definitely because of communication, which the guys already mentioned, but needs to be elaborated more on. You see, many times in a relationship, the women tend to have more to say than the men. Let’s just say they spend more time analyzing every detail to their relationships than most guys do.

Men don’t tend to pay attention to much detail, they just want the women to say what they feel in less than 15 seconds so they could go about their business. Most women need way more than that. Then there’s the whole attention, most women need their men to pay more attention to them, and for many men this is probably one of the hardest tasks to accomplish. They would much rather be spending the time paying attention to other things, e.g. a football game. One of the other reasons why a relationship may fail is because there is a lack of understanding happening. It’s important that when you get into a relationship, that you take the time to get to know and understand your partner, get a feel for what it is they like and the things they don’t like.

One thing you don’t want is to get on your partner’s nerves. You want to build a relationship where if you ladies you see that your man doesn’t feel like having a conversation then you know to come back at a later time. Men if you see that your girl is need of some one on one time, then take the time to give it to her, or least her know that you are thinking about her.

There are so many more reasons why a relationship can fail, but if you feel like this is the person that you would want to spend the rest of your life with, then it’s important that you work hard in making it work.

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Relationships are tricky, people sometimes say things and don’t really know what they mean or what the outcome may be, based upon certain things that they say. “I need some space” which is one of the things that many people experience  or may hear in their relationships and may not really be sure what it means when it is said to them, and yes it may mean different things to both men and women. But since this is from a woman’s point of view, let me stick to just that. Ladies, when you have a man and he tells you he needs his space, that can mean a number of things but what it probably means is that he wants to go out there an explore his options, without having to lose you. Most of the time, men don’t really know what they want, they can easily get caught up into things that are pleasing to their eyes, that they forget they already have something good waiting for them at home.

Most men feel that they can have their cake and eat it too. Ladies, ladies, ladies, be careful when your in a relationship and your man tells you he needs space. I’m not telling you not to grant him his wishes but you need to set some boundaries or find out exactly what this space entails.

I know most women will feel that if their man say they need space then this just simply means that he doesn’t really want to be with you, if he feels that he needs time away from you. This may also be true, but like we’ve said here before, it’s important that you talk to your partner and find out exactly where their minds are at.

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