Happy Monday everyone, I hope you all had an amazing weekend. Today’s topic is about whether or not a person should marry their partner after dating them for just a few weeks. As you all may know Khloe Kardashian, Kim Kardashian’s little sister got married this weekend to Lamar Odom that plays on the Lakers. Now mind you these two started dating just about a month ago and they have already jumped the broom. Now I can’t judge on whether it was for love or for television ratings but how many people really think that after just a short period of dating someone that your ready to really commit the rest of your life, as it very well should be to them. Personally, I believe in having a great deal of time in getting to know a person before I can commit my life to them, but this is just me of course. I think that a few weeks just isn’t enough to know that you truly love someone. Love takes times and it takes you through various rollercoaster rides and I think before you jump the broom you have to be 100% sure that no matter what direction this roller coaster ride may take you that your in it for the long run. I’m not sure if you can feel like this just after a short while. Well, I would really love to hear your thoughts about this topic! Feel free to leave comments below!

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What exactly would you constitute as cheating? We have had two segments on should we stay with someone that has cheated on us and we all have different opinions on what we will or should do in such situation. What should be considered as cheating on our significant other? I think it’s definitely time that we make that distinction. Would you consider dancing at a party with someone else the way you would be dancing with you partner cheating? Is looking at someone of the opposite sex when your partner is not around cheating? Or is it even ok to look at someone else? My take on this is that I find nothing is wrong with looking as long as it doesn’t go beyond just a look. If all sorts of ideas going through your mind about what you can, or would or should do to someone like that then I think that can be considered cheating. Is talking to someone else other than your other half for countless hours cheating?  I think we all will have our ideas of what cheating is and for most as long as the significant other don’t sleep with someone else or even perhaps kiss with someone then it’s not cheating. Oh wait, how about if your significant other decides to go out with their “friend” something you would perhaps consider a date, would you consider that cheating? Let me know what you guys thinking cheating is and where do you cross the line in order for it to be considered a problem. Please feel free to comment below!

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So what exactly happens when you and your partner decide that it just isn’t working out, or what happens when you and a friend decide to take it too far? Many times in this life we find ourselves in compromising situations that we know we have no business being in. And having a friend with benefits is definitely classified as one of those situations. A good example of this is when you’ve been in a relationship with someone and both of you mutually decide or one of you may decide that it isn’t working out and decide to go your seperate ways. Yet, you still find your paths crossing and doing the same things that you used to do when you were together. Another scenario may be, that the both of you were friends and now you find yourself crossing the line of what friends would normally do. How do you handle a situation like that or is this situation even a healthy one. Well let me say from my personal experiences that a frienship with benefits can cause you to lose a whole lot more than you bargained for. Once you have crossed that line with someone that was once your friend, you do risk losing that frienship and so much more. Now I am not saying that this can’t be a positive thing because maybe it can lead to a long lasting relationship but I really wouldn’t bet on it ending this way the majority of the time. A lot of times we find ourselves caught up in the moment and we really don’t take the time to think about what we’re doing until it is in fact too late. I think keeping our friendships separated from relationships is very important because in the end it can save you from a lot of heartache. If you want the frienship to be something more than what is then then address that to your friend and go from there but don’t put your heart or self out there and find yourself too deep that you forget that the initial intentions were never there for a long lasting relationship.

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Hey everyone, let me just say that it feels so good to be back writing and just sharing some of my thoughts with all of you. Ok enough mushy talk..let’s get to it.

How do you know if you have found the person that your supposed to spend the rest of your life with? I think that this is absolutely one of the hardest things to know. Many times when we find ourselves  in a relationship, especially in the beginning we say that “oh yeah he/she is definitely the one” and then a few months down the line when things don’t seem as peachy or wonderful as they once were, we begin to seek for that “other one.”

Well, the reality is that we won’t ever find the one were supposed to be unless we try to make things work. Now I am not saying if your with someone and after a few months you really don’t feel like it’s going anywhere then to stay in the relationship but you should always attempt to find ways to make it work (definitely feel another post coming for this one). So I know what your thinking, what makes me such an expert? Well the reality is I’m not but over the years I have seen and have experienced a lot and have been in my relationship for quite sometime so I think it’s safe to share some things that have made ours work and have allowed me to feel like he’s the one for me.

First and foremost, I truly believe that if someone wants to have a relationship that will bring you more joy than sorrow, you have to place God at it’s center.  In any relationship, I think it’s so important to have someone that’s going to respect you, both of you should have a mutual respect for each because that is where the trust and faithfulness stems from. You also need to know that the person understands and cares for your well being. They have to love you for who you are and encourage you to be what you can be. They have to be strong for you when you are weak and you have to be able to return these things unto them.

You have to know that you can trust them with your well being and if you plan on having children, with their well being too. You have to be able to talk things out and communicate when someone just isn’t going right. Don’t let problems build because they will eventually cause the demise of your relationship. It’s so important to talk things out and work things out, even when you may not want to. The longer a problem lasts, the more reasons you start to find why this person isn’t the one for you, so fix it before it gets to that point. There are so many more things I would like to share but my time is up….so this is a definite to be continued…..Please share your thoughts and comments below, they are all greatly appreciated!

xoxo

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Men find women to be complicated creatures and they find it even harder to understand exactly what do women what. Well, men the fact of the matter is, women are complicated and for the most part they have too many things that they want, which makes it impossible for them to just really talk about or focus on one. Women are multifaceted creatures, they tend to see details rather than big pictures, they appreciate the smallest gestures, and they are passionate when it comes to the way they love another. Women are complicated only because they are constantly growing and changing in the way they look at life. A woman’s life is almost never the same, meaning that it takes another shape or form every single day. Women love to look at life through various lenses in order to find the one that suits them best. Men aren’t considered complicated because they tend to look at the bigger picture and not care for the details. They follow the same rituals and routines throughout their daily lives and would rather not deal with change. Most men for the most part can only do one thing at a time, whereas women can multitask. Their minds are constantly going and sometimes they do get a bit carried away, which makes them come across as if their insane, but they aren’t, men just can’t really keep up. If a woman finds something that works for them, then they stick to it. Most women look for a change because it brings that excitement into their life that they long for. They long to be happy and are in constant search of this happiness. Woman nag, love, cry, create drama, love some more, all for the sake of finding happiness, and all they need is for men to understand them!!

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There’s a saying that says girls and guys are like matches and gasoline, meaning when they get together things are bound to happen. Can a guy and a girl just be friends and have no other feeling surface from this friendship? Like the saying says, it’s very difficult for a guy and girl to be close friends and at some point not develop feelings that surpass friendship for each other. Some things in life are bound to happen. Sometimes when two people spend so much time together and they start getting to know each other, they begin viewing the person in a different kind of light. They start noticing and thinking about certain things that they’ve never thought about of before.

A perfect example, when a girl is in a relationship and she has a guy friend that she confides in or considers to be a best friend, she will likely be telling her guy friend about all the things that are happening in her relationship, what her boyfriend is doing right or wrong, etc. This friend is going to be the one that provides her with comfort when she’s going through difficult times with her man. This friend will know all of her soft spots, all of weaknesses, and obviously more than her boyfriend probably knows, so technically her friend is more in tune with her than her actual man is. By the way, the same is true for a guy that has a girl as a good friend or best friend that he tells everything to.

A man thinks that he can be friends with a girl and not have this friendship go any further, but let me the one to say, at some given point in time, either something can happen or he has thought about something happening. Feelings are sometimes things that we can’t help feel or control. They come upon you at any given moment in time. You may not at first think anything of it, but the way you may feel about a person in your friendship may not be the way the person feels about you. In your mind, you may honestly believe that your just friends, but that doesn’t mean the person feels the same way.

But wait, does this mean that girls and guys in relationships shouldn’t be hanging out or talking to anyone outside of their partner? No, that would be insane, but it’s important to limit the kinds of conversations that your having, you shouldn’t be sharing with anyone what’s happening in your relationship, or you shouldn’t be comparing your girl or guy to anyone. If at any point your friends starts to change tongue on the way they feel about you then it’s important that you snip the talking time. Don’t be oblivious to what’s going on, if you want to keep your relationship and your friendships, it’s important to open your eyes to what’s happening around you. Make sure that no one has any alterior motives and that the friendship is true and genuine.

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