After that day we talked in the stairways things kind of changed

Ok, after that day we talked in the stairways things kind of changed. I was able to say hi to her when I saw her around. As I mentioned previously being a foreigner and not knowing the language kind of stopped me from saying all the things that I wanted to say to her. Well to my advantage, one day I met this guy that used to stay close to our house. We walked to school every morning together and I became friends with this guy because my dad knew his mom and one morning on his way to school my dad told him to watch out for me so I wouldn’t get beat up because for some reason other kids took pleasure in beating up those that were new to this country.

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How to get your ex back? Caution: make certain that you have this is something that you have truly thought about and truly want before proceeding to read this post!

Ok, if your reading this either you really want you ex back or your just curious, either way, you’ve been warned.

So, quick question for you that’s reading. Why do you want him back? If your answer is,”I love him and I can’t see myself without him” then that’s a good enough answer for me.

So now what do I do to get him back before he’s gone for good? Every relationship is different and this really depends on what terms your relationship ended in order to devise the optimum plan on how to win your ex back. But what I can do is share some general ideas on different ways to approach this situation.

If your ex is willing to have a conversation with you, then ask them if you guys can get together to talk! If he agrees, then pick a nice, quiet place where just the two of you won’t be interrupted to talk. Personally I think that this should be done face to face but really it’s up to you. Make sure that when you meet up with your ex you already know what it is you want to say, because this isn’t the time to fumble or drop the ball. Honesty, really is your the best policy. This is a good as time as any to lay your heart on the line. Difficult I know, but you’ve come this far and there is no way to turn back now. So just go for it. Let them know that you can’t be without them and that your life isn’t the same without them.

Now for the hard part….let them tell you how they feel. Be patient if they really don’t know what to tell you or how they feel. Don’t be surprised if they can’t answer you and need time to process and think about all you’ve said and even more so be prepared in case they don’t feel the same way you do. Relationships are hard, but sometimes we have to learn to take chances and in the process get our hearts broken. If they choose to not want to pursue the relationship then just think of it as their lost and that it wasn’t meant to be anyways.

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Communication in a relationship is a key element in making it last. I know what your thinking, tell me something I don’t know. Well keep reading and I will hopefully shed some new light on how communication can help you have a long lasting relationship. Now before I give any advice, I have been in a relationship with the same guy for 11 years and I wouldn’t be sharing unless I had some idea of what I was talking about. Now that I’ve established that….here are some things that we’ve done that’s helped us lasts this long and can hopefully help you in your relationship.

Every relationship has its ups and downs, that’s a fact some days will be better than others but the question is how do you get over those difficult humps that you may come across in your relationship. Personally it took me quite some time to talk about how I felt, if I was upset or angry I kept it inside but overtime I only found that this made me angrier. I didn’t realize the detriment this was bringing to my relationship until my relationship was almost no more. So obviously I quickly realized that their were some changes that needed to be made in the relationship.

 Talk!  If your angry about something, let your partner know respectfully that your angry. Key word: Respectfully. No need to shout or be rude but let them know that your upset about whatever it is they said to you or did. But be sure that when your ready to talk, you’ve had time to collect your thoughts and know how you want to approach the situation. 

 Give your partner time to express themselves. Let them reciprocate how it is they feel about what your telling them, because maybe they could be upset about something too or have something that they would like to share.

Always establish an open door policy in your relationship. Let your partner know that they can come to you and talk to you about anything, and that you will (not you will try, but you will) have an open mind about!

Always consider each other’s feelings, especially when it comes to making decisions that may affect the both of you or maybe just you. Let them know that you cherish their opinion and that you guys are a team.

Always establish boundaries, meaning you should let each other know off the bat the things that make you happy or things that upsets you or irritates you. You’d be suprised how many couples don’t take the time to talk about this. Ex. If you don’t like people going through your personal things, like your wallet then let your partner know that this is not acceptable, but warning, once you say something like this be prepared to talk about “why” as many women will ask!

Always be aware of each other’s feelings, don’t say things to spite the other or make them angry. Guard your words, because as many men may know women never really forget once you tell them something that’s out of place, it will eventually come back to bite you in the you know where.

These are just a few pointers on how to communicate in  a relationship. If you have any comments, questions, or things that have worked for you in your relationship then feel free to comment below!

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Are men and women so different that they can possibly have different meanings for the famous words “I need some space.” Yes many times when a woman’s definition of I need space can be a lot different than a man’s definition of these words. If you have not read the post on what men mean when they need space then go check that post out but for now we are focusing on our women and they mean when they say these words.

Many times when a women is in a committed relationship, very seldomly is she looking for a way to step out, rather many women are looking for a man that is just as committed as she is. Now this is not to say that you don’t have your women players out there looking to have a good time, while trying to hold down a relationship all at the same time but for the most part I want to believe that most women have their man and are looking to keep their man. So if your woman was to tell you that she needs her space, what is she asking you for exactly? This is a definite tough one for the simple fact that most women don’t ever really know what they want.

Space is a word used for women to get you either out of their hair, meaning you might be a little too attached for her liking, space can mean that she needs time to think about what she’s doing with someone like you and whether or not the relationship is worth her time, space can mean that she just needs time to be away from the stresses of a relationship and just needs some “me” time, space can mean that she is trying to get your attention by scaring you into thinking that she might not want to be with you. Space for a woman, can basically mean a whole lot or really nothing at all. So ultimately it depends on where your relationship is.

If your in a relationship and everything seems to be going well and all of a sudden a woman is asking for space then maybe you need to be asking your woman some questions and trying to get done to her real reasons for asking for this space. If things in the relationship aren’t going so well, then as a man you need to definitely get what I like to call “your chips up” meaning you need to be putting in some overtime in your relationship if you are looking for it to work. If a woman is asking you for space then find out what kind of space she’s looking for, maybe she’s stressed out or maybe your doing something that is constantly upsetting her or making her unhappy. If you want the relationship to work, then make sure that you guys have good communication as to why things are the way they are and what it is you both can do to make it better.

xoxo

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Hey everyone, happy sabbath! Today I had the opportunity to be blessed with a story about an African Christian who wanted to live out loud for Jesus Christ and died for what it is he believed in. How many of us are willing to do that. What you are about to read is something that I hope can change your life as I believe it has changed mine. I pray in my heart that we all can learn to live out loud for Christ.

I am a part of the fellowship of the Unashamed. I have the Holy Spirit
Power. The die has been cast. I have stepped over the line. The decision has
been made. I am a disciple of Jesus Christ. I won’t look back, let up, slow
down, back away, or be still. My past is redeemed, my present makes sense,
and my future is secure. I am finished and done with low living, sight
walking, small planning, smooth knees, colorless dreams, tame visions,
mundane talking, chintzy giving, and dwarfed goals.

I no longer need preeminence, prosperity, position, promotions, plaudits, or
popularity. I don’t have to be right, first, tops, recognized, praised,
regarded, or rewarded. I now live by presence, learn by faith, love by
patience, lift by prayer, and labor by power.

My pace is set, my gait is fast, my goal is Heaven, my road is narrow, my
way is rough, my companions few, my Guide is reliable, my mission is clear.
I cannot be bought, compromised, deterred, lured away, turned back, diluted,
or delayed. I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the
presence of adversity, negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the
pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of
mediocrity.

I won’t give up, back up, let up, or shut up until I’ve preached up, prayed
up, paid up, stored up, and stayed up for the cause of Christ. I am a
disciple of Jesus Christ. I must go until He returns, give until I drop,
preach until all know, and work until He comes.

And when He comes to get His own, He will have no problem recognizing me. My
colors will be clear for “I am not ashamed of the Gospel, because it is the
power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes..” (Romans 1:16)

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How many of you have put your heart and soul into something and it just didn’t turn out the way you had originally planned? I know I have time and time again. I sometimes feel like I do all that I can to learn only the hardest lesson in this life, which is you simply can’t. What exactly is considered to be a failure though, is what I continously ask myself as I continue on this journey I call life. Is it really trying my hardest at accomplishing something and then falling short of my goal,  or could it be the not trying at all that would have made it a failure. I would definitely say it would be the latter. You see, how would we ever know if we would be successful at something if we in fact never tried it? And yes, the reality of this life is that we probably won’t succeed at everything that we do, but in a sense trying it out is a success in itself and while were at it, if we do put God first and it is his will for us to succeed, then we really shouldn’t worry about not being successful. I know that we all have things that we wish we were better at or even question as to why we even bother wiith trying to do them in the first place, I too ask myself these questions, but anytime I ever feel like giving up or like I’m failing at what it is I’m trying to accomplish, I simply pray and ask my Heavenly Father, that if it is his will that he allows me to be successful at it, because all I can really do is try.

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