Comments on: Should you marry someone after just dating them for a month?

By: elisapoo

elisapoo — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 16:01:05 +0000

I agree Martine, God should be at the forefront of our relationships, because all things are possible through him. I do still think ift’s importatn though that we do take the time to know the people that we will be spending the rest of our lives with, because they can shape us or they can break us.

By: Martine

Martine — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 22:15:04 +0000

Ur right Ellipso… In order to experience the love in 1 cor. 13, one needs to have a good understanding of it, and let God lead his/her love. DrG1, you did not understand my comment in the way I was thinking of it. I did not say that you have to put up with whatever the other person is doing. I did not mean “my love, but our love”. What I said was that if love is strong enough, the couple should be able to overcome any difficulties with God’s help. One thing ( nt really in the subject, but…) If we stop thinking about what the other person would do, but instead of what we would do, our relationships would be stronger I think.

By: Lisnide

Lisnide — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 14:23:18 +0000

I agree with you. Love does take time. Somepeople always say they are in love at the beginning, but after a while, they realize that person was not the one. Always be patient. I know getting married is wonderful, but you have to think about your life also.

By: elisapoo

elisapoo — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 03:51:19 +0000

Martine, I’m glad you brought up that definition of love and your absolutely right, that’s the agape love that we all should have for each other. Now I’m not saying that after a month you can’t have that Jesus love because you should have it automatically but and I do hate this but, but marrying someone and saying that your love can endure all things and believe in all things when you really don’t even understand this agape love you speak of is asking for a whole lot.

By: DrG1

DrG1 — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 03:14:49 +0000

Well, Martine, I guess then with love we can just put up with whatever someone else is doing. But keep in mind, this may be a cliche, but there is a thin line between love and hate.

By: Martine

Martine — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:55:43 +0000

I agree with both of you. However, Here is something intriguing… while I was reading your replies, I thought about the definition of love in 1 cor.13. Then, I realized that what you, guys described was not love but just a feeling…”For love believes all things…and endures all”.

By: Beauty

Beauty — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:37:35 +0000

I agree love is not enough to get married. I think it also depends on what you fell in love with or love about the person. Because I may love the way he laughs one minute but hate it the next. You should be able to tolerate the person and everything about them. I don’t think a month will be sufficient.

By: DrG1

DrG1 — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:05:36 +0000

But is love enough to even be in a relationship, needless to say a marriage? We can love as much as we want but love can only carry it so far. Let’s say I meet someone and I love her and she loves me and after 1 year or so we get married and one day she happens to be going through my wallet or my phone. Now what she doesn’t know is that I don’t like people invading my privacy, not that I care, but at no time should I feel that my privacy is being invaded. I can let it go with a warning if it keeps happening after two or three times, that’s ground for dismissal. But see, after a year, I don’t think we can get to know each other enough, thus, love is not really everything when it comes to marriage. It’s a Big factor but not all.

By: Martine

Martine — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:27:54 +0000

I would say that in general, it is not recommended to marry someone just after a few weeks dating. However if the couple had a frienship before then realized that they loved each other, I don’t see any problem in it. The thing is that love is so imprevisible! One may meet someone today and already know that he/she is the chosen one. And if the feeling is both ways…, well, I don’t see why they can’t get married in a month. What matters is not to fall in love with the wrong person.

By: elisapoo

elisapoo — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:36:50 +0000

I agree with you on the fact that marriage isn’t what it used to be. I mean I know how hard it is to just find someone but I don’t having been with someone for just a month can really help you determine if you should spend the rest of your life with them. I don’t know maybe I am cynic but I have to really get to know you before I can definitely take it that next step.