Comments on: What should be considered cheating?

By: elisapoo

elisapoo — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:52:06 +0000

i’m glad u see where i’m coming from cristy…this has nothing to do with not trusting my man because if that were the case i don’t think i could be with him. I just don’t like the idea of sharing him in that sense.

By: cristy

cristy — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:46:59 +0000

You are absolutely right about that elisapoo. Some girls just know how to get a man if they want to, they know all the strategies (and the other way around). Even though, the man is strong, faithful and all that it can still happen. The best thing is to be extremely careful: Men be careful with the woman you hang out with and vice versa. It happens many time!!!!!!!!!! So don’t be so sure that it can’t happen to you! Anyways, as far as I am concerned I won’t allow my boyfriend to go out with any girl anytime he feels like it.

By: elisapoo

elisapoo — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:42:29 +0000

I see what your saying Gasline, but why would I even want my man in that type of predicament. I don’t have a problem with him hanging out with friends and what not, but I don’t like the idea of him sharing one on one time, such as going out to dinner, movies, etc. with some other chic. That’s something that him and I share and three is definitely a crowd.

By: Gasou

Gasou — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 17:35:03 +0000

Elisapoo, i understand what you are saying; it’s your opinion, but i don’t care about what the girl takes it for; all I care about is what’s in my boyfrien’s mind.If you take what girls think about your boyfriend’s move, act etc… seriously you will get crazy. specially if your boyfriend is awesome, fine, he has the face and the body like they say. The movie “Obessed” by Beyonce is a good example of how triffling and pervert a girl can be and show that a man doesn’t have to cheat if he doen’t want to no matter what the situation is.

By: elisapoo

elisapoo — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:58:41 +0000

I see the point that you guys are making and trust is just a part of it. I can trust my man but I don’t have to trust the girl he is going out with. I know how trifling some girls can be and sometimes some guys can be so oblivious to that. For them it may mean absolutely nothing and for the girl, she may see it as an opportunity.

By: DrG1

DrG1 — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:53:07 +0000

DING, DING, DING, man I love this topic. lol. Gasline I understnad what you are saying about the compliment,but from what I know is that girls don’t like too much compliments. That one compliment you may give her may be the ice breaker. I know you didn’t mean actual McDonalds. Trust is a big thing, you may trust your boyfriend/girlfriend 100% and you may not feel comfortable with him/her spending one on one time with the opposite sex and that’s understandable. I also understand what you guys meant by boy/girl fuel(fire) and gasoline(lol)yes that’s 75% true because two people can be in a movie, even in the same hotel and do absolutely nothing. From personal experience, a group of us went to Orlando at one time and my homeboy was going with this girl and her sister wanted to go to, so I ended going to the movie with them to keep her company sorta, but I spent most of the time on the phone with my girl, one, I didn’t really like the movie and I don’t think there was anything for us to talk about really. So, elisapoo going to the movies I am not sure that will cause problem. But that was in my case, and most men are not me, so bare that in mind.

By: Gasou

Gasou — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:38:18 +0000

To comment about what elisapoo said. If I trust my boyfriend and he trust me ; we shouldn’t have a problem. We are not going to take it as an habbit, but we both can go out. Nothing should happen if we respect eachother.
Anyways, I think it’s personal. If in my mind going out is cheating I shouldn’t do it;otherwise’ I’m cheating.

By: Gasou

Gasou — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:23:39 +0000

When I said movie, McDonald,then motel, it was an illustration. I meant; they can go anywhere(doen’t have to be movie or McDonald),but they end up in bed. You can compliment your opposite sex once in a while, but not every second, nor any compliment. O course women are include, we both cheat, men and women. The only difference is we do not use the same steps or strategies.

By: elisapoo

elisapoo — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:23:15 +0000

Ok..I have to interject here, having been in a relationship for a long time, I don’t think I will ever feel comfortable with my man going out to a dinner or even a movie with any other chic, other than me. I don’t mind him hanging out with a group of friends, but as soon as you start going on some one on one dates that indicative of something else. I really don’t think that he would feel comfortable either if the roles were ever reversed. Hanging out with friends, that’s cool, hanging out one on one with some other chic, trouble!

By: Gasou

Gasou — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:06:31 +0000

KIKI, whoever, a man or woman who leaves his/her partner for another one does not know what he/she wants. I consider that person like a passenger, who doesn’t know where he/she is going. He/she would cacth any buss, get off catcth another, and so on. Untill he/she realises that he/she is not going anywhere, but it may be too late. And I agree with you on the going out part. Like I said; I do not consider going out with your opposite sex cheating, and you complete my thought by saying: “Be careful once it comes to going out!!!! It is really good that you go to public places, just for safety. That is the reason why they most of the time, consider men and women as fuel and gasoline.” (Christelle Fleurius)