What does it mean when a man says “I need some space?”
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Relationships are tricky, people sometimes say things and don’t really know what they mean or what the outcome may be, based upon certain things that they say. “I need some space” which is one of the things that many people experience or may hear in their relationships and may not really be sure what it means when it is said to them, and yes it may mean different things to both men and women. But since this is from a woman’s point of view, let me stick to just that. Ladies, when you have a man and he tells you he needs his space, that can mean a number of things but what it probably means is that he wants to go out there an explore his options, without having to lose you. Most of the time, men don’t really know what they want, they can easily get caught up into things that are pleasing to their eyes, that they forget they already have something good waiting for them at home.
Most men feel that they can have their cake and eat it too. Ladies, ladies, ladies, be careful when your in a relationship and your man tells you he needs space. I’m not telling you not to grant him his wishes but you need to set some boundaries or find out exactly what this space entails.
I know most women will feel that if their man say they need space then this just simply means that he doesn’t really want to be with you, if he feels that he needs time away from you. This may also be true, but like we’ve said here before, it’s important that you talk to your partner and find out exactly where their minds are at.
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wtf . what is space ?? a guys ask me for space i’ll give him space alright .
enough space so i can get on with my life !! I am not a kid and i don’t have time to be playing childish games .
If there is a problem then we better fix it and move the relationship foward .
Yep, i so agree with you if thats what he wants hell, grant his wish and hope that whatever he’s looking for he finds it.
It’s so funny you guys are saying that, because I have always heard women asking for space. Well, I have to agree with you because if someone needs space it’s ok with me. I’ll just give them the entire area. (lol). But on a serious note, that’s why some guys lie to you guys. How is that? Well, he can’t just say he needs some space so he starts to ignore and pay less attention until you are the one asking for the space.
Now, don’t get me wrong most guys would ask for space because they just want to check out something for a minute and come back without having the guilt of them cheating. But some guys need space because they really have too much going on and they need to be alone.
“Check out something for a minute and come back without having the guilt of them cheating.”
If he’s checking out, there is no coming back. I’m not a revolving door. Come in whenever you feel like it. What the hell is that. Thats what children do. He wants space “map fut bey espace.”
lmao… shay and lynn, you girls are funny… it could mean he thinks you are too needy and that you need to ease up a little. it doesn’t always mean he wants to brake up… so before you over react think and try to understand that it isn’t always something negative… you women are so negative…
I agree that someone may need their space. And like it was said you need to make sure what that space entails. Just by asking the guy, you will get a sense of where the relationship is truly going. Ladies, guys will let you know if they really want to be with you or not. It’s up to you to LISTEN to what exactly is he telling you. Space and the context in which it is said means different things. But yeah, for the most part it means: I want to look around and see if there’s something out there (if he hasn’t already done so when he says he needs his space).
Its important to remember in relationship that its a two way street. A relationship can be stressful at time. I believe that everyone should take time off. Its take alot of work to make a relationship everlasting today. Space does not always mean I want to look around. It can mean I dont want to take my stress out on my relationship while I clear my mind. We need to think outside the box when in a relationship. Its is not all Black & White.
“I need space” i agree that It can mean different things but what am i doing for you to need your space. I understand lets take it slow we moving to fast. But like shay and lynn said I’ll give you 50 feet and if that’s not enough i can sure give you more. It’s not a problem for me.
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I wouldn’t say negative, and am not needy! i just feel that it takes two and if that person wants their space give to them. LIFE GO’S ON…
Man , i’m still totally against this whole space thing . And not only from a guy but from a woman too .
What would really be the point of the partner in the relationship asking for a break ?
And ok so you ask for your break or whatever and you get it, when you all get back together what are the chances that things will change and not be the same as it was before asking for the break ?
I am not going to say I agree with the space thing because it’s kinda odd how when a woman ask for space the man would disagree with the chick but at the end respects it. But if it was the other way around she’ll go all hulk on his ass. Thats plain bull of the space thing cause it’s just giving the person the idea of messing around in my opinion. If two people really cared about each other they would work their issues out…and move forward!
i met this we started talking for 2 weeks and last night were talking and the last thing he says is sweet dreams then today he is a diffterent person and he says he needs to thinks about some stuff and everybody is saying just leave him along i really did like him and he liked me and we wanted to be together did he mean that or was that just a lie he usually is texting me during his breaks he is calling me and he we planned to go out on a date i planned to kiss him what happened what did i do wrong did i say something wrong
he probably did mean it but he’s and he was probably just going through some things, so give him time to get over what ever it is he was on that day, and if the problem persist then it’s time to check him.
my boyfriend recently told me needs space and that i am suffocating him. i dont buy that, i think space is just a code for i wanna have my cake and eat it too and your in the way. if i am suffocating you then u should tell me to ease up. easy and straight forward not i want space and i cant think clearly with you around he needs time alone!!!
I am going thru a hard time with my boyfriend today is our anniversary and he asked me for time a couple of days ago yeaterday he asked me to get my syuff from his house. I do and then he says well I didnt tell you everything. So he took some of it out. He saw i was a mess i was crying this is hard for me I LOVE HIM AND HE said he loves me so what happened we never fight we never argue we are always so level.
He says that he is not doing anything with his music and that this is why he needs time. Is Time and Space the same thing
He says he hates to see me this way and ask that I give him the weekend to think but that there is still a possibility that he will want out after thinking so why would he take my things out and ask me to leave them
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Time and space are two very different things, he may just need space to think about what he’s doing with his life which is absolutely normal. I can understand how upsetting it can be that he would have you take your things and then change his mind. Give him the time that he needs and let him decide what he wants to do. It really does seem from what you’ve said that he still loves you and hates seeing you hurt and maybe he’s hurting now, so giving him time to straighten things out with himself may ultimately lead you guys to having a better relationship.
Men are like rubberbands. They can be stretched to the limit by not being able to feel like he is chasing the woman or if the woman is being clingy. But if the girl gives him his space, lets him call her and let him miss her, then he will bounce back and want to be with his girl. So many woman take it so personally. I did at first. I have been hurt many times by men that I suffocated. I learned that in a relationship, we need to trust our significant other until they give us a reason to not trust them. Let the man miss you, it’s healthy. It’s healthy because he will want you more when he can’t have you. Men want what they can’t have. Even if you want to see him, sometimes blow him off, not hurtfully, but just say you have plans. The anticipation of keeping the man on the edge of his seat is good. If women would do this, it will have the man see that the woman is independent and alot of men like that analogy.
My boyfriend cheated on me nd whn i found out he told me he needd some space. we stay togethr n hv a 5 month old baby, i hd to find a place to go nd leav him with his space. he claims he ddnt cheat bt jst dated the girl. cn smbdy help me undrstnd wat it means?
dating someone outside of u would in my book be considered cheating. If someone is in a relationship with you then they should only be with you. ultimately it’s up to you whether you want to find a way to work things out, but just be certain that this is something you both want becuase there is no point in being with someone if all they are going to do is break your heart
I drove 2.5 hours on last Friday, the 8th, to go see my boyfriend and halfway there I get a text from him saying that he thinks we should part ways but it has nothing to do with me. I was trying to surprise him because I hadn’t seen him for almost a month, and I wanted to give him all of the gifts I had for him. So I sat in my car for 5 hours in negative degree weather at his house until he let me in….he was sleeping and didn’t hear the phone calls or knocking on the door, and he was still calling me baby and sweetie and things like that. I gave him all his presents and he loved them. He told me that he’s scared of things going right with me. He still kissed me and told me he loved me. I looked at him and said, “I know you want to be with me”, and he said, “yes”. Then I said, “and I think you still want more in the future”, and he leaned over, whispered in my ear “definitely more in the future”. He said he wanted some time and space to figure himself out and fix what is keeping him from loving me as much as he should because he’s been severely hurt in the past. It’s been five days since hearing from him or contacting him. I was trying this love dare from the movie Fireproof but yesterday I was supposed to contact him to see how he was doing and ask if he needed anything. All the advice I’ve been getting is to leave him alone..when he’s ready he’ll contact me, and that he needs to respect me and by me leaving him alone that’ll cause him to have more respect for me. Any other suggestions? I really care about him a lot. I truly love him unconditionally. I want this to work out so bad, and I’ve poured my whole heart and soul into it becoming completely vulnerable. I’ve never had this much love for somebody. Oh and he still has my broken gold chain necklace. I asked if he wanted to give it back and he said he knew exactly where it was at but he still wanted to fix it or replace it. I just don’t understand it. I am so confused.
wow…i can see why your really confused…gving someone space is definitely something that is diffcult to do but sometes the only way to truly know if they want to be with you as much as you want to be with them is to let them go. If his feeelings towards you are genuine then he will realize that he can’t be without you a you are the one for him. Just give it time…
I just don’t know if he’ll ever call though. It’s been 6 days since we’ve talked. So, I’m not sure if I should call him or continue to leave him alone. This is so hard on me…I hope it’s as hard on him too because if it isn’t then I am such a fool.
I can relate to how you feel, but sometimes I think it’s best to let someone go and let them figure out for themselves what they want…if it’s meant to be i’m a firm believer in it will be…but this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t find out where your relationship with him stands because there is no point in waiting around if he has no intentions of making it work. i hope this helps!
just the fact that i’m in this discussion means that i’ve googled this and im exactly in the same boat. there are times when we can’t help ourselves and end up calling that person & and asking him to have “the talk”, but in my past experience i think it’s better to just let the person go. if he really loves you, he will find his way and come back. one thing i try to keep on my mind is that you can’t really force someone to fall inlove with you. i was told the exact same sentence by an ex. it really hurts but what can i do? nothing! just accept it.
well on mother day i got sick asked to be taking home earlyer. and he seem kind of distance didnt walk me to my door nothing.didnt even call to find out how i was doing when i got sick this hurt me so i wrote him a email based on how he was acting he responded almost a week later saying he needs me time to reevalute his life and and the relationship said i did nothing wrong things seem to have slow down between us and he will call me soon …im wonder what soon means and is there a limit on when how much time is consider me time do you just give the person a break and see if they comes back or just leave it alone and move on.
I’m not even in a relationship with the guy and he’s asking me for space. What the hell is that supposed to mean. I don’t get it. We’re just friends . . .
me nd my bf had an arguement last week now hes sayin he still wants o be with me and he still loves me now the argument was over something silly and he says he needs space so waht can i do im really confused
Hi Kelly, people ask for space for different reasons and we deal with things differently. If he feels that he needs a few days to cool off then of course. You need to know the terms of this space. Why he wants the space, for how and make it clear that space doesn’t mean break up.
I have been dating a guy for a yr now. In the start things were going well until I noticed he became withdrawn, I asked If all is right he said yes. On my b day he asked if I can give him space, at that point I wonder what happened,he couldn’t tell me anything but that he needed space. I asked how much he said into the new year which is far away, as he didn’t say when in the new. I’m confused to what’s happening. He then told me he will call and check up on me, but for now I’m to leave him alone, he told me he cares as he’s not pushing me away, It’s so hard…